No Need...

No need to be salty on this day. Happy Valentine's Day. You should really focus on loving yourself.  Jesus loves you always and He wants you to come to Him. He will make things easier than you trying to take it upon yourself. Just be blessed by my video and I will send you those links.  Excuse this video it is uneditied but it will be better later. 

Here are some links:

http://ijustmetme.com/2014/02/whys-its-great-to-be-a-christian-single-on-valentines-day/

http://askmystilettos.blogspot.com/2014/02/iam-in-love.html

http://www.heatherllindsey.com/2014/02/valentines-day-blues.html#.Uv6dLiiQm0s

Love you all!

NaturalGoddess<3

Celebrate Yourself!

I got inspired from hearing a sister of mine saying that she had nothing to celebrate. They were talking about comparing themselves to others. But we have to look at everything that we have accomplished in our lives. It may not be big but it is something better than before. In this life, we will have many disappointments and no one is going to be there for us. They want to see us crumble and fall. There will be some people that are there for you of course, but since we all have our situations we may go to our lives and be "away" for a while. You have to be encouraged. Here's a little exercise: write down all the GOOD things about you. Don't focus on the bad or anything negative. You just focus on the positive. I plan to do a spa day for myself soon because I think it's necessary. At times, we are so overwhelmed with those things in life that we don't sit down, take a breath and rest. If you have Christ then this should be even better for you because He wants us to cast our cares on Him and to go on with our life because He has it all in the palm of His hands. We can celebrate ourselves by dancing and having a party with us. Lol! I know that sounds so hilarious and ridiculous but try it. I have to try this all myself and I'm telling you it works. Everyday I tend to talk to myself and yes I'm sane thank you very much. I may seem crazy to folks but it doesn't matter because I am very comfortable with doing so. I do it at home every morning or even just at random points. We have to know who we are and our identity is really in God. Why do you think you have a void inside because there's something missing and it's not celebrating by going to the club, drinking and smoking every weekend that will fill you. Christ is the only one that can satisfy our soul Whether we like it or not, we have to seek Him and ask for HIm to come in our lives so that He may take control. He knows what's best. He will be able to give us that reason to celebrate ourselves. We need to have that self- confidence.  Do things on your own and stay away from social media if that's what allows you to get into the mode of comparing yourself. It's really not good because everything that glitter ain't gold. We must pay attention to what we are doing and not what others are doing.  I picked this color because it shines bright like the sun. You are sunshine don't allow no one to tell you any different. If you need help, then have those around who will be an encouragement and builds you up, not tears you down. Get rid of those who seem to tear you down. Love your flaws each and every single one of them don't worry because we all have flaws because no one is perfect but Jesus Christ. Stay well my brother, my sister. Remember to esteem yourself in a way that's healthy and not in a way that will be unhealthy leading to destruction. 


"You is kind, you is smart, you is important"(from The Help).





NaturalGoddess <3

New Year, New Vision, New Mindset

Happy New Year one and all! I hope that you had a wonderful time celebrating. We always say every year how it's going to be different and I'm going to do this differently and that differently. What you call them....NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS! Honestly, I just don't believe in those, but I do believe in GOALS though. Make sure that when you actually say these things that you do them because we actually don't do them people. From saying I'm going to workout and eat healthy to I am going to treat people differently. If you ask me, you need to just do it instead of say it. I say things and I end up not doing them but I am learning to write it down once it comes to mind, go back to what I wrote and then do it. Sometimes I do end up failing but with every failure I am closer to my success. You have to make sure that when you do fall off, to get right back up on the train. That's what I just realized while actually writing this. I have a lot to do today and I haven't got to the meat of things yet. It is a terrible thing when we preoccupy our time with things that can be done later due to the fact that THEY WILL BE THERE WHEN WE ARE DONE DOING THE IMPORTANT THINGS. You are probably wondering why I am writing in caps because I want to make it known and it has some importance to me. The vision that you may have may not be new but if you still have it and what you tried in 2013 didn't work for you, then you need to change strategies in 2014. That's basically what I'm saying. I  am speaking about myself too and some things have changed and some things haven't. This is because along the way, my allergies decided to stop by and tell my body how it should operate. I'm telling you though NO EXCUSES. Keep on going and you don't want to end up with the shouldas, couldas, wouldas. I spell it like this because we pronounce it like this for the most part. Let's get ourselves in line people. For real, we have to be thinking differently because we don't want to watch our dreams pass us by. Dream again, make a vision board and go forth with your vision. HOpe your year of 2014 will be grand and greater. I know mine will! 

NaturalGoddess<3

Two More Weeks Until The Year is Over

I can't believe it this year of 2013 is almost over. There has been so much that has happened, good and bad. Even though things have been at a halt or so it feels like it has, God has been good. I just wanted to write this post just in case, I may not even write anything at all. I know you are probably thinking wow 2013 is almost over and that you want 2014 to hurry up and arrive. I always think in my head, why do people always say that though. I just expect nothing but great things to come forth in 2014. There are certain things that have happened I am most certainly not pleased with but to God be the glory. I just have to keep in my mind of who I am and who's I am. If I don't, then I know I will go insane. But thanks be to God, He is the only one that can understand me.I refuse to believe that I am beneath and not above. For even though I went through this year and we go through every year to be honest SOMETHING; I know that this year will be more blessings than trials. I decree and declare it over my life in the name of Jesus. You have to keep on saying things over yourself even if you can't see it. It's crazy because when I look back over this year and I see where I was supposed to be heading to as of next year, it seemed like it was going to be great but God saved me from the relationship that I was in. It didn't feel good and I believe that I still fully haven't understood but I will understand one day. When it happens I will know that God already has the BEST for me. I can't believe that 2013 is almost over. It gets me excited but at the same time helps me to reflect on the year that has taken place. Looking at where I was in the beginning to where I am now and even though some things haven't been manifest yet, I can see that there has been change. There are some areas in my life spritually as well as naturally that need some change, but everything in God's timing. I know that I have grown and there are still some tendancies about me that still have to be shedded off. But, I bless God. I am not complacent and at least I'm not hoping that I am, but I am positioning myself to see the change and be apart of the change that is to come at my place of work. I am expecting many of the strongholds and things that once have hindered me to be loosed and that I will be better in Jesus name.I will say that it does get rough and I do shed tears, but with each breakdown and time in which I cry I know that I am one step closer to my victory. I know where to leave it at and who to give it to.I am not perfect but I am striving toward perfection in Jesus. Wow, to think that the year is almost over is amazing it feels like I had ended up just started school and now to see that I have passed my classes and soon am graduating is amazing. This is only the beginning and there will be more to come. I have been underneath or so it seems for a while, but I remember the story of Joseph and what he had to face as an example. I realize that I must be humble before being exalted and I know that some people will talk about me and hate me for no reason. But, that's what Jesus faced.If He had to go through it what makes me any different and so I have been mindful that all is lowliness is good because I am well on my way. Just reflect on your life during this year. This is my reflection. 

 Happy Holidays!

NaturalGoddess<3

It's Time to Do You!

Honey, I have been learning this title for a minute just recently. If I didn't know before, I surely know now. Don't mind why I may have decided to write in this color, it was the time to something different in a sense. I hope it caught your attention too. Smile. This is something that a sister in Christ says all the time when she talks or sends text messages. It's time for you to deal with you and stop supporting everyone else. I mean we can still support them and be a part of what their vision is but if you don't indulge in yourself daily in which you give your vision time to cultivate, then there is surely a problem. I am learning this very thing  because  currently I am supporting sisters and brothers in Christ and the vision they have. What about me? Now, I can't ask this question if I'm not doing anything about it.Now what their vision entails can go a long to the point where if I play my cards right, I can end up helping myself by being apart of them. It took me a while and it is still taking me a minute to wake up and actually get it but I believe that I am getting it now. I have to make sure that I work towards myself in some way because I have to market myself and this is not an easy thing. You have to pull some strings and make connections to get to where you are going. I am learning that from those who are around me and who are mentoring or keeping me accountable. I am really thankful for them being in my life and how God has really placed them in my life. It doesn't matter what anyone else says because at the end of the day they can care less about you when it comes to them. I'm not saying to treat people the same way they treat us. If you are a born again believer and following after Christ you shouldn't be treating them that way anyway.You have to treat them better that they think that you are weird and something is wrong with you, but you know that it  is the Savior that lives in you and you make the difference from everyone in the world. We live in the world, but we are not of the world. I can say that I am ready to do me because God has to move aside this person and this significant other just to get my attention and say hey time to do you boo. God knows just what is best for me more than I will ever know. I can't imagine not having Jesus in my life for I am a mess but am turning into a message right before His eyes. This is a journey and a journey is not something that could be rushed but it is a step by step process that is gradually progressing or sometimes not progressing but you would hope for the journey to progress as time goes on. If we don't invest in ourselves and we invest in everyone else, then we won't be able to do the things that we are supposed to do on this earth. Whether you want to believe it or not, you have a purpose, you're not here just to be here and there is something that you are supposed to be doing for your Creator. Do you who that is? It's not your parents because who created them and it's not your grandparents because who created them? Honestly, this list will go on and on. It's too complicated to figure out. But, I just know that it's time to do me and not allow anyone or anything to stand in my way. With God's help, I GOT THIS! I'm nothing without Him anyway so why not allowing Him to take over and be in control while I just sit back and relax. Of course, I have work to do, but once my portion is over then it's up to Him and He doesn't fail. So, if you don't know it before IT'S YOUR TIME! IT'S TIME TO DO YOU! No matter what others seem to think of you. If you think you're not qualified, then it may be true but God does that qualifications. 





NaturalGoddess<3

Stay In Your Place

In all matters of life, there is a time for everything. A time when to follow and a time when to lead. If your time has come and gone already, then allow the person that is now leading to have their time. What I don't get about people is that they will tear down anyone just to have their time in the spotlight instead of edifying and helping others. I understand if you want to assist, but taking over is the wrong spirit. This is just like what lucifier was trying to do with God. If you are causing confusion and thinking that you mean well, then you are WRONG!!! God is not the author of confusion, but He is the GOD OF DECENCY AND ORDER. How dare you come and try to take over. Stay in your place! We should be building up one another, not tearing each other down. How dare you ridicule another person, and you can't do no better. You had your time. I'm sure you mean well but really look and analyze what you are doing when your actions are dictating another person's actions. On Sunday in Sunday school,  I learned about encouragement and how important it is. I've also been reading about friendship so I definitely know who is for me and who is against me. The nerve of people. All they do is critic and can't even come with a positive bone in their body. That's a shame. People need to learn how to stay in their lane. God doesn't like that discord and that confusion because He's not a part of that kind of activity. I am just so tired of those who are trying to lead before their time or those who won't allow others to lead because it's all about them leading. Aren't we all apart of the same goal and should have the same mindset? It's really sad. I had to write since this happening around me now and I have seen it for myself but at least in that case it was shut down. This needs to be done again too and it shall. Encourage each other and don't tear one another down by any means necessary.









NaturalGoddess<3

Relationships: Who You Attract, Is Who You Are( Believe it or not)

Just because you see that it's entitled relationships doesn't mean I am talking about intimate relationships between man and woman only. But ALL relationships. I came to grips with myself today in thought. I thought especially about who I have attracted lately and how they really were when things got ugly.  I am like oh my goodness, this is who I am. It wasn't anything that was positive either. But, it was a negative qualitiy that I have that holds me back to succeed, for what God has for me and who He has for me. Also, for my being sensitive and vulnerable to Him. My relationships with man or just friends as far as the negative shows that I am unstable, lazy and am trying to make it by having a silver spoon handed to me.  I was like wow this is not good at all. Also, I realized from these same relationships that I am deceiving and that I am dishonest with myself as well as others and I am unsure of where I am heading.This  is exactly me to the t and it is sad. I also realized that I am not around people who have "made it" yet. Everyone is working trying to make the money to survive. They say to surround yourself with successful people. The reason why they say that because it will rub off on you and then you can become successful too. This is why it is so important who you are connected to. It is not just a natural thing, but it is a spiritual thing, for everything in this life is spiritual. You have to watch who you allow in your life. One of the things that has really stuck with me is to know your circle. Ask God for that guidance on who is this person and what are they are about. I am not trying to have any old guy in my life unless it is directed by God. I have done this relationship thing by myself and look where it has gotten me. Broken heart, insecurity galore,etc. I don't want to be a person that is so like unstable and unsuccessful and still stuck in the same place. A lot of people ask me, what's new with you? I'm like you know nothing really. It is because what am I doing to make progress toward what I am trying to accomplish. This is the problem with a lot of us. Procrastination and laziness cannot have me. I have to and must overcome these things that I have been dealing with. I refuse to depend on anyone especially a MAN  to help me. It is fine and well to ask for help sometimes, but not all the time where you become a leech to those around you. That's taking away from them all that they have worked so hard for. Where is your reward for the work that you put in? If there's no reward, go back and reevaluate what did you do wrong. Then, do it again but with another strategy.  I encourage you who are the people that you are around and really think about everything in your life. Is this where I want to be in the next  year? I have already been considering these questions and the more I think, the more I feel a certain kind of way. It is really important  to be around the right especially in times when you're really going through and struggling. Watch who you are around if you have to reject and cut off, do so it is vital to your life.




NaturalGoddess<3