Relationships: Who You Attract, Is Who You Are( Believe it or not)

Just because you see that it's entitled relationships doesn't mean I am talking about intimate relationships between man and woman only. But ALL relationships. I came to grips with myself today in thought. I thought especially about who I have attracted lately and how they really were when things got ugly.  I am like oh my goodness, this is who I am. It wasn't anything that was positive either. But, it was a negative qualitiy that I have that holds me back to succeed, for what God has for me and who He has for me. Also, for my being sensitive and vulnerable to Him. My relationships with man or just friends as far as the negative shows that I am unstable, lazy and am trying to make it by having a silver spoon handed to me.  I was like wow this is not good at all. Also, I realized from these same relationships that I am deceiving and that I am dishonest with myself as well as others and I am unsure of where I am heading.This  is exactly me to the t and it is sad. I also realized that I am not around people who have "made it" yet. Everyone is working trying to make the money to survive. They say to surround yourself with successful people. The reason why they say that because it will rub off on you and then you can become successful too. This is why it is so important who you are connected to. It is not just a natural thing, but it is a spiritual thing, for everything in this life is spiritual. You have to watch who you allow in your life. One of the things that has really stuck with me is to know your circle. Ask God for that guidance on who is this person and what are they are about. I am not trying to have any old guy in my life unless it is directed by God. I have done this relationship thing by myself and look where it has gotten me. Broken heart, insecurity galore,etc. I don't want to be a person that is so like unstable and unsuccessful and still stuck in the same place. A lot of people ask me, what's new with you? I'm like you know nothing really. It is because what am I doing to make progress toward what I am trying to accomplish. This is the problem with a lot of us. Procrastination and laziness cannot have me. I have to and must overcome these things that I have been dealing with. I refuse to depend on anyone especially a MAN  to help me. It is fine and well to ask for help sometimes, but not all the time where you become a leech to those around you. That's taking away from them all that they have worked so hard for. Where is your reward for the work that you put in? If there's no reward, go back and reevaluate what did you do wrong. Then, do it again but with another strategy.  I encourage you who are the people that you are around and really think about everything in your life. Is this where I want to be in the next  year? I have already been considering these questions and the more I think, the more I feel a certain kind of way. It is really important  to be around the right especially in times when you're really going through and struggling. Watch who you are around if you have to reject and cut off, do so it is vital to your life.




NaturalGoddess<3

Content, not Complacent

Content is the satisfaction of one's point in life, while complacent is being pleased. These two are different although they have similar meanings. They are different when it comes to a situation in our life. Complacency can even take the same value as laziness. The Word of God says to be content in whatever state that you are in. This is in Philippians chapter 4.  I may be satisfied or content where I am now because I know there are greater levels for me to go in God, but that doesn't mean I am pleased or complacent with the situations that I am facing. If I become complacent how can I go higher to the next level. Being complacent can mean that I can allow everything to pass me by and never trying to accomplish goals in order to get to the next level. Sometimes you have to make a move in order for God to bring things to completion. I know that in my situation that it won't always be like this. I am content with it but I am not complacent with it because there is more for me. I just know that I know there is more for me. If there is something that I am unable to do and it is something that I need to learn, I need to go right ahead and take those steps to get well at it by learning the skill. Knowing how to do that skill will lead into greater things and measures that may very well take me far. It is imperative in our lives whether a follower of Christ or a follower of something else, that we are to be content because complaining doesn't get us anywhere. Trust me I should know and know it well, it makes you feel even worst about the situation. If you think positively and on other things, then you would be better off and not worry about your situation. What I try to do is just see myself better than what I am now and it definitely helps me. God is taking me through this season and there will be other seasons to go through. When you are following after Him don't think that you won't go through some things. You will go through because if Jesus went through during His days on earth who are you? Don't be complacent with your situation, but be content in your situation. Look to God who is your strength and if you don't know Him, get to know Him by speaking with others about Him who have a relationship with Him. It's crazy how I am content in my situation now and to do an honest self check on myself I think that I am too complacent or things in my would change or I would do something to change them. I am speaking of the things that I can change and not the things that I can't change. So remember, to just be content, but all the way make those steps to become better. Also be careful, how you do that way to get that way to success.



NaturalGoddess<3

Carry On

I can say that these days have not been easy. But I want to relay a message: Carry on! Things may not be what we want them to be but we have to think positively. I like to think on the goodness of Jesus Christ because that's in whom I believe and that whose I am. There are things in this life that we have to go through and sometimes we try to run, we try to hide but we must listen to the voice inside telling us the right way to go. Many people call this conscience and I call it Holy Spirit. This is because when you are born again believing that Jesus died on the cross for you and rose from the dead taking death, hell and the grave in His hand.  You can now say that you follow after Christ. Sometimes I feel a certain way but if it is negative I've learned that I don't have to see myself this way. If we see ourselves that way things start going to how we see ourselves. No matter what happens we must Carry on it is imperative to. The greatest example would be of course Jesus and his life. He still carried on even though He told His father to pass the cup from Him. Can you imagine if God actually answered that prayer where we would be today? We wouldn't even  be here. But thank Jesus for dying on the cross giving all of us a chance to except Him. I'm glad that I am able to go through and have the strength to because of Jesus. If we end up breaking it off in our relationships or our job is getting worse or even if we are laid off, we must carry on. It is not an easy task but it will strengthen us for where God will take us. If you don't know Jesus as your personal savior and have a relationship with Him, get to know Him. It is simple. That's what I love about Him because He is simple and He wants us to open up to Him because He has His arms open to us. No matter what we have done He is willing to forgive us. He loves us all that's why He died for us. He said to take up your cross and follow me. Your cross might be the fact that your finances or low or people are treating you a way that is harmful. It could be anything but you have to remember that no matter what that you are blessed and that things will not be always the way that they are. You can  be up today and down tomorrow. One thing that I  have learned is God's way of  being successful is actually to fail . The world's way of being successful is knocking any and everybody just to get up and failure is not in the equation it is only there to some degree. I am learning day by day that we need to carry on and without God we would go insane. That's the reason for people killing themselves because they can't deal with life's pressures alone. It is only Jesus that can help us and some may know that and other may not. But, in all aspects carry on and see what life holds because what may be a cruse today will be the very thing that's a blessing tomorrow. 

NaturalGoddess<3

How Valuable Encouragement is for Mankind

We all need encouragement at some point of our lives. There are circumstances and situations in this life that we are going through that we may feel embarrassed to tell people about. So, we don't say much of anything but it is good to talk about what you face to trusted individuals in your life. You never know what they may say to you that may help you. I know for me with the situation that I was facing, the same person that was involved in that situation with me was the one who encouraged me. It was like his view and perspective of the situation was so optimistic and he was advising me on what I should do. I became a lot better than I have been these last couple of days. Now, I can go about my day the way that I usually do and not be upset with God anymore. Yes, people get angry with God and it's okay as long as we don't sin. It was like I had sisters and close friends that I can talk to about the situation. But he really made me realize that it will get better and that things will not last forever. So, you just never know what your sentence should I say can impact another life. Just the simple fact that of giving a compliment can be encouraging to the next human being. We all have days in where we feel down, it doesn't matter what our faith because we are humans. Christians are the ones that people view as the most sad and pessimistic. It's so crazy and I will write a blog on that later. But, we have to be the light to those out there who are in a savior. Encouraging others is most definitely our job because some people are just encouraged in how we carry ourselves during a situation. It is that detrimental that we uphold ourselves if we born again believers as such. We must be prayerful and read our word because that will uphold us. If we focus on these things there is no telling how different the world would be. Instead of tearing one another down, we need to stick together and uplift each other. We are the body of Christ and each one of us is who everyone sees. We may the Jesus that they see because we are called to edify one another and that's just what encouraging is. Edification is encouragement.We must remember this because it is important to one another. I feel that encouragement stems from love as well because when you care about someone you want the best for them. So, it's hard depending on what we're facing  but it is vital. Encouragement can help us as far as taking the next step or making the right decision. So, remember even if you don't feel like it some times you should encourage a person that looks down or afar off. They will remember and appreciate it a lot more.  Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself and you care about yourself so why not do the same for others even those that you don't know. You don't have to know someone to encourage them. Be blessing to others and God will be a blessing to you.



God bless

NaturalGoddess

Life is Funny... One Big Roller Coaster

Did you ever went about each day knowing that things would improve until they actually didn't and then your Creator tells you that cutting must be done? Do you know how hard that is? To actually get rid of something that He told you trust me. That's why I entitled this blog  life is funny..one big roller coaster. You're up one moment and then down another. You also face some upside downs and twists and turns in this life. The thing was life is also  like a curve ball because I never would have expected this. One thing that I don't really like is how painful it is to go through this and you happen to see everyone else: saints and worldly folk doing a lot better than you. Of course we know that the worldly folk will be doing much better because they are BUSY: Being Under Satan's Yoke. I got that acronym of BUSY from the NY Call this past weekend which was excellent. The actor Steve Baldwin had said this while he was speaking.  Worldly folk will have everything and more and things will be looking really good for them too. The saints went through their season of pruning and pain and hurt, but now it is my time. But, this goes to say you never know what to expect in this life for our lives are like a vapor. Here today and gone tomorrow. So, we must live as if it was our last. It does suck to be a child of the King and not see anything changing or working out. You feel stuck, forgotten, lost and not prosperous. It looks like things just aren't looking up and then when you least expect you have to lose even more stuff or remove people from your life. It's either the person does it or God will do it. When He does it, there's no telling how it will turn out. It could be worse than if you did it. But, I guess I have to laugh to keep from crying. That's what we have to do and paint a face on and put on that mask. We need to have a facade so that no one can see what we are really facing. If someone happens to push us the wrong way though, all of that you were hiding happens to come out though.Life is funny because you can end up crying and laughing the next moment after crying. But, I guess it's for the greater good because God is greater than. I feel like I can't even move or function and you know as long as I do stay occupied then it will be gone for that moment or period of time. But, it will always be back in my face to haunt me and I will have to face that demon. It's like I can never keep anything, that's what it feels like. I feel like I was this close and then it was snatched from me. I deactivated my facebook for the time being. I felt like it was the best thing to do because it was getting to be too depressing for me anyway. So, that was the first step and so I don't have to take down anything such as not being engaged or the pictures of us. So life has a way of tripping us up but it always has ways of making us stronger. 


God bless



NaturalGoddess 

Faking it Until You Make It

I'm sure you have all heard of this saying at some point in your life one way or another. It makes me laugh just thinking of it as I wrote it as a post. But it is true. We feel sometimes emotionally bothered about circumstances, situations, even relationships. We are human so of course that is natural for us to feel this way. But, even though we may feel this way we don't want to show how we are really feeling to everyone else and this is because of how they may perceive us down the road. When we fake it until we make it, is it really wrong? In my perspective, I don't think it is wrong because it will end up being apart of us down the road the very thing that we fake. This is what most people think too. It gets hard to do this trust me I know because you just want to give up and throw in the towel. Faking it until you make it is one of the best strategies because when you look back and wonder how did I get over, it was nothing but Jesus that kept you. You will look back and laugh. Faking it in my opinion can even extend to using your imagination or foresight. This gives you the belief to know that what I am dealing with now is only going to be for a time, but there is better down the road and those same people that looked down on you will be the same that look up at you. God will exalt you in His time and in no other time. I was told by my fiance that faking it until you make it in relationships is a no go at all. It can't be done because if the party that is faking it just to make the other said party happy then they will be explode and the relationship will go sour. You don't want that at all to happen because both said parties will be unhappy. This will make things ten times worse. But, for other matters I believe that faking it until make it works because in the end it will become a part of you in a sense that you will become better later on in the future. If you don't think so, then try it!

When You're Tired of Being Tired

Have you felt like you want to make a change?  That you have been dealing with the same thing for some time now? I mean no matter what you do to try and change the situation it just won't budge. You're just tired of being tired of the same old thing.  You feel like you're making your way all for nothing. You work hard and to the best of your ability and they don't care. It's like crazy how things in this life are. It's like wow I have been here all of this time and you really don't want to give what's entitled to me. I have earned it and you want to steal from me. You give others what they deserve but not me. It's like God why is this happening. You know to be honest: This has been my mind frame lately. Right now as I'm looking at this, I'm not thinking that way thank God. What seems to be a denial isn't it's just a delay for whatever reason. I'm not like the rest in this world. I should be treated much better than this and what not. But Jesus is the ultimate example. He was treated as if he was a  nobody and definitely beneath his real status. He did that so that when born again believers such as myself go through and realize that things are done wrong to us, it's a reminder to let us know that He was wronged first. It says it in the word anyhow of how basically we are hated because they hated Him first. So that encourages me to know something. Like people act like that you don't exist except for when they need you for something just because of the age barrier. That shouldn't matter at all, don't get it misconstrued. The same person that you saw at the bottom can be the same person at the top that is in a position even greater than you. So, be careful of you step over and treat with disrespect. But, you know what I am guilty of disrespect towards my loved ones unfortunately. The ones that care the most for me, while the people I work with and customers and etc don't give a rats behind about me. They care about themselves and the benefits in which they can get. I mean there are moments in which there's serenity but other times it just feels like that. I mean there's nothing in common but work so that's where that comes from. I mean if you even get tired of being tired then it's time for a change and that means YOU! You have to change your approach on how you do things or even how your facial expressions are. Your body language can go a long way. Speaking of that let me go on youtube to learn of that. I have been learning of many things pertaining to personal things and that will just be another on the list of education. Until next time God bless! 

NaturalGoddess